by Kimberly A. Cook
The 2018 brand new clean slate is here. It’s like putting on a new dress for the first time, all expectations and perfect fit. To top off the start of the new year, we had a full Wolf Moon last night and we get another one the end of this month, an official Blue Moon. A two-fer!
The daylight is getting longer by a whopping seven minutes and I couldn’t be happier. Dreams of Fairy Rock Garden plans and lawn swing lazy days are just around the corner. Even for Pennsylvania. The daffodils will rise again. The crocuses are peaking their pointy heads out right now. At least in Oregon.
Resolutions are not my thing, I make goals. So when I transferred to my 2018 calendar I laughed when I noticed my 2017 goals would be my 2018 goals too. Not sure if that is efficient or unrealistic. Big goals? Get healthy, write and play. Then I have four smaller goals for the three big goals.
I worked on the smaller goals in 2017, but did not complete any. No matter what plans we make, life happens. So recycling 2017 goals is not a bad thing; it keeps me moving forward.
Reading the book “Transitions – Making Sense of Life’s Changes (Second Edition)” by William Bridges right now, recommended by a friend. Really enjoying it. Bridges talks about the three phases of transition:
- “an ending, followed by
- “a period of confusion and distress, leading to
- “a new beginning, for those who had come that far.”
I’ve always found that phase two confusion and distress period annoying. I liken it to that time right before I make a big decision; it feels like I’ve thrown chum into shark infested waters and I can’t figure out what to do while swimming with the frenzied sharks – very stressful.
Two questions Bridges asks at the end of Chapter Four really have me thinking.
- “What is it time to let go of in my own life right now?”
- “What is standing backstage, in the wings of my life, waiting to make an entrance?”
Great questions right? This book has been out for years and you can find it in the library, but I like to have my own reference copy. Pink highlighter is a way of life for me and they frown on that in library books.
So looking ahead to 2018, how will you answer questions one and two above? I like them because while we may not have figured out where we’re going, we can consider what to shed and what might be sitting next to us as options.
So when we feel like we’re floating around with feeding sharks, it’s nice to know other folks are out their bobbing along with us. Nobody has this all figured out.
Life evolves, whether we choose the transition or not. So, here’s to a great 2018 for all of us. Transitions Ho!
Your questions are more helpful than the ones I came up on my own from years of watching TV. Well, one question I guess. Is this my show or am I a bit player? (Sounds silly, but it makes me realize I’m not the center of every drama.) Doesn’t tell me what to do, but it does cut down on the number of problems I decide I have to tackle.
Another question. “Am I even in the right play?” My goal is “A Midsummer Night’s Dream,” but one of the Henrys tend to show up instead. I try not to pick up other people’s rocks too. But they like to try and give them away….